I'm Sorry I Haven't A Clue

Not quite sure what this toy thing is all about? Believe us, you are not alone! We’ve put answers to our most frequently asked toy questions below…

What is a vibrating toy?

A vibrating toy or vibrator is a machine that vibrates with a rapid, consistent rhythm. They come in all colours, shapes and sizes, from small cigarette shaped ones, to those resembling a sixteen inch penis; and are made from a variety of materials; plastic, rubber or silicone.
They vibrate at various speeds; some at a steady speed, some with varying speed settings. They are either mains operated or battery operated, some with rechargeable batteries.

Why use a vibrating toy?

Our answer to this frequently asked question is "why not"? Sex should be fun, sometimes light-hearted, sometimes romantic, sometimes to achieve pregnancy, sometimes for a 4 hour session, sometimes a 10 minute quickie.
Primarily vibrators are designed to produce an orgasm by stimulating the clitoris (see How Do I Use a Vibrating Toy?). They can be used anywhere on the body, from the face to the soles of the feet, and don't forget your partner! Lend him your vibrator and suggest that he plays with it - alone if he wishes - to find out what feels most pleasurable for him. Try to involve him from the beginning. Go shopping for your vibrator together - whether it’s in a boutique, catalogue or website.
The great advantage of vibrators is that they can be used privately in an exploration of what feels good for you - the most pleasurable places, the best speed, intensity of pressure, duration of contact…just use your imagination!!
They can be useful when a partner isn't available. You're not in a relationship, he's away for long periods, is ill, experiencing impotency; and a healthy release of sexual tension is desired. There are potentially tremendous gains from masturbation, it's relaxing, it's pleasurable and can give you insight into your own sexual preferences and sensuality. Masturbation by men and women is a healthy sexual outlet and is practised by at least 70-80% of women at some time in their lives.

Who are the toys designed for?

Anyone and everyone! Vibrators are wonderful to relax sore muscles, as well as incorporating them into your own self-pleasuring and joint partner sexual activity.

How do I use a vibrating toy?

Begin by running the vibrator over various parts of your body, face, neck, shoulders, breasts, stomach, thighs, feet… find out which speed you prefer and whether a light stroking action or firmer pressure. Use it over a layer of silk, or after covering yourself with body lotion. The lotion can be perfumed product, to everyday baby oil. Don't use a vibrator in the bath or shower.
Don't forget your partner, explore his whole body too, especially around the testicles and base of the penis. To enjoy more of a sexual experience try running the vibrator over your nipples, around the inner thighs, massage the inner and outer lips (labium minora and labium majora), and around the vaginal entrance (for a diagram have a look at www.sexualityandu.ca/eng/parents/pb/anatomy.cfm.)

Gently explore the clitoral area, clitoral stimulation is the best way to achieve an orgasm. Use saliva or a lubricant as the clitoris can be very sensitive. If so - stroke the vaginal and clitoral area over your knickers. The clitoris is the most important part of the female anatomy involved in an orgasm. It has around 8,000 nerve endings, more than the head of a penis, and it's only function is sexual pleasure! In 1966 the renowned Masters & Johnson published their findings on female sexuality, stating that all orgasms centred on the clitoris.
Explore how and what makes you feel good…you may have an orgasm. Just familiarise yourself with your new toy - and enjoy!

What is an orgasm?

Physiologically speaking an orgasm is a number of contractions (5-15) of the outer layer of the vagina. It has been described in many different ways - "fireworks, a deeply relaxing experience, an explosion…" You may have already experienced one. Some are more intense than others. An orgasm is a culmination of pressure and tension that builds up in the pelvic area during arousal (by self or partner!). Orgasm is a release of that tension. It can vary from person to person, and from occasion to occasion.

What do I do if I have never had an orgasm?

There may be many reasons why you have never experienced an orgasm; negative messages about sex from your childhood, not understanding how your own body works, or an inexperienced partner. Remember that to enjoy sex with a partner you first need to know what turns you on.

Choose a time when you can have privacy, and try the following.

STAGE A: How do you feel about your body? Take a slow, relaxing bath/shower. Run the water over the body, how does it feel? Use a flannel, sponge, loofah or soap, how do the different textures feel? When drying yourself see how the towel feels on certain areas of your body. Rub body lotion all over yourself. Stand naked in front of a mirror and look at your body from all angles. What do you really like, what do you dislike? Familiarize yourself with how you look, feel and react to different stimuli. When you are happy with yourself, which may take a few sessions, move on to Stage B.

STAGE B: How do you feel about your genitals? Repeat the bathing exercise, then take time to look at your breasts and genitals in a mirror. (see www.sexualityandu.ca/eng/parents/pb/anatomy.cfm for a diagram).
You may find it easier to sit on the floor with your legs apart and use a hand mirror to see your genitals. Find the inner and outer lips, the entrance to the vagina, and the clitoris. You may have to pull the clitoris hood back to find the clitoris. When you feel comfortable with how your genitals look, move on to Stage C. Again - this may take a few sessions.

STAGE C: What type of touching makes you feel aroused? Repeat the bathing exercise. Now try touching your body in different areas. What do you feel - do some areas make you feel sexy? Spend some time touching your clitoris with different motions and pressures. Use a lubricant if it feels easier or more pleasurable. Use a vibrator to explore the vaginal and clitoral areas. As you become more confident the feelings may become more intense, you may have an orgasm. Initially, don't make orgasm a goal, just focus on increasing stimulation and on what feels good.
Whether it comes from a lover, a shower-jet, a dildo, a finger, a tongue, or a vibrator - remember that an orgasm is an orgasm!

Why are Myla toys such different shapes to other sex toys?

There are many myths about masturbation. The key myth being that a woman only masturbates by inserting an object into her vagina (replicating the action of a penis). For the majority of women this is not the method that they choose to use (have a look at our Scientific Research section). An orgasm for women is usually achieved by stimulation of the clitoris. MYLA VIBRATORS ARE DESIGNED TO PRODUCE AN ORGASM BY STIMULATING THE CLITORIS. Sex should be fun! Unusual and attractive colours, shapes and textures add to the fun, but they also work! Leave one of the Myla vibrating toys on your bedside table and no one will guess just how much fun you've been having either alone, or with your partner, – unless you tell them...